Award-winning writer and journalist Elizabeth Day joins us from London to discuss:

  • Ellie’s new favorite novel THE PARTY (August 15, 2017)
  • What to say (or NOT SAY) to women dealing with infertility
  • The big lesson she learned from interviewing Sheryl Sandberg
  • And how she kicked “the good girl” habit

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my interview prep involves milk (!), coffee, and a glowing New York Times book review

About Our Podcast Guest:

Elizabeth Day is an author and journalist. Her fourth novel, The Party is out in July 2017, published by 4th Estate in the UK, Little Brown in America, Belfond in France and Dumont in Germany.

Her debut novel Scissors, Paper, Stone won a Betty Trask Award. Her follow-up, Home Fires was an Observer Book of the Year. Her third, Paradise City was named one of the best novels of 2015 in the Observer, Paste Magazine and the Evening Standard, and was People magazine’s Book of the Week.

She is a feature writer for numerous publications in the UK and US including The Telegraph, The Times, the Guardian, the Observer, Vogue, Grazia, the Radio Times, Elle, Marie Claire, Glamour, InStyle, the Lonely Planet Magazine, The Pool and Cosmopolitan. She is a contributing editor for Harper’s Bazaar. A versatile and wide-ranging writer, her work incorporates everything from celebrity interviews to crime reportage.

Elizabeth grew up in Northern Ireland and her first job was for The Derry Journal. Since then, she has worked for The Evening Standard, The Sunday Telegraph, The Mail on Sunday and the Observer where she was staff feature writer for eight years. She won a British Press Award in 2004 for Young Journalist of the Year and was Highly Commended as Feature Writer of the Year in 2013. She is the co-founder of Pin Drop, a live performance short story studio, and a regular contributor to Sky News and BBC Radio 4. –ElizabethDayOnline.Co.UK

Additional Naptime Reading:

The Posh, Psychological Thrills of The Party New York Times Book Review
“Why Does Society Still View Childless Women Like Me with Suspicion”
– The Telegraph

If you like this episode, check out my interview with two other female journalists Elizabeth Wallace and Hana Schank. They co-wrote “The Ambition Interviews” essay series for The Atlantic

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With catastrophic hurricanes and wildfires displacing countless families, I reach out to child and adolescent trauma expert Stephanie Small, LMFT.

In this in-depth interview, she shares invaluable tools to help guide our children through traumatic events.

Whether it be a natural disaster, a car accident, a terrorist attack, mandatory evacuation, or surgery, she teaches us how to support a child’s natural resilience in the aftermath.

And listen up for her simple and effective exercises for alleviating our children’s everyday worries and our own!

About Our Podcast Guest:

Stephanie Small is an accomplished Marriage, Family and Child therapist with a positive and empowering approach in her work with children, adolescents and their families. She builds on the strengths and resilience of her clients while healing the life challenges and traumas that have impeded their sense of wholeness and joy. She is recognized by leading physicians in Los Angeles for her treatment of medical trauma in children and adults. In her private practice of 25 years, she has integrated Attachment-Focused EMDR and somatic therapies to resolve the troubling impact of divorce or separation, grief and loss, attention difficulties, bullying, depression, anxiety and adoption issues to name a few.
In addition to her private practice, Stephanie has lectured nationally and internationally on issues concerning childhood and adolescent trauma.

She recently consulted with state and local officials following the recent shootings in San Bernardino, Paris, Sandy Hook, and Aurora Colorado.

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Podcast Pairing:

If you like our latest episode, also check out our June 20, 2017 episode: “In Case of Emergency”. In this podcast, we ask: Do you have an action plan if your child needs immediate emergency care? What if your mama gut instinct contradicts the specialist you are consulting with? And if your kid gets hurt, should you really drive to a children’s hospital if it’s further away than the good hospital down the street? Dr. Kurt Newman, CEO of one of the top children’s hospitals in the country and pediatric surgeon extraordinaire, shares life lessons and life-saving tips from his new memoir Healing Children: A Surgeon’s Stories from the Frontiers of Pediatric Medicine (Penguin Random House, June 2017).

If you enjoyed this episode or our podcasts in the past, please consider joining our Atomic Moms Unite for Hurricane Harvey mission in order to support the youngest survivors of Hurricane Harvey. I did tons of research and this platform is super legit. Funds go directly to SAVE THE CHILDREN and you will automatically receive a charitable receipt for tax deduction. My heartfelt thanks for helping my hometown of Houston. ANY AMOUNT will help these families in need. $100 can provide a secure crib for a little one living in a shelter, help supply a safe space in shelters for 20 displaced children, or many other items that are needed to care for the littlest survivors. Give here

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Atomic Moms Podcast | Host Ellie Knaus | Parenting Podcast | iTunes.com/AtomicMomsWhining, biting, hitting, kicking, or screaming. What to do and how to discipline? Author, expert, and mom of 4, Sarah Ockwell-Smith is here to help.

Y’all, the newborn honeymoon stage is wearing off – you can hear the edge in my voice – and we’re figuring out how to be this new and improved version of our family. I’m exhausted and a tad overwhelmed. Almost 4 year-old Big Sis is incredibly loving towards and crazy patient with her baby sister’s needs and colic wails. (Seriously. She’s crushing it). But I’m having a hard time mustering up the energy to parent my eldest as patiently as I have in the past. Parent coach, author, and mother of 4 Sarah Ockwell-Smith gives me an expectations reality check and some skills to make home life easier, along with other advice from her brand new book GENTLE DISCIPLINE: Using Emotional Connection – Not Punishment – to Raise Confident, Capable Kids (August 29, 2017). After listening to this episode, you better believe I’m marking my calendar for 2030. Listen to the episode to find out why.

In this interview, we discuss:

  1. min 2:38 – What does discipline actually mean? And what are the differences between authoritative, permissive, and gentle discipline?
  2. min 5:38 – When on Earth will all this gentle discipline with my preschooler finally pay off? lol
  3. min 10:o2 – What if you don’t naturally gravitate towards an earth mama vibe? Can you still learn this parenting style?
  4. min 11:20 – Sarah gives a whole new meaning to “potty time”.
  5. min 15:30 – Sarah explains her WHY HOW WHAT method.
  6. min 18:15: – How to gently handle when your child tries to hit, kick, or bite you (nobody else has ever had that happen, right?)
  7. min 23:40 – Sarah helps us make S.E.N.S.E. of tantrums at any age.
  8. min 28:49 – What to do if my child doesn’t seem to care about hurting other kids’ feelings.
  9. min 34:10 – Tips for raising naturally assertive daughters.
  10. min 36:21 – How to be a champion for our kids.
  11. min 37:31 Sarah gives Ellie a reality check about the life of a 3 year-old.

Ellie’s Post Show Ah Ha! 

I’ve always known that I can’t try to reason with my child when she’s in flight or fight mode. BUT after this conversation, I realized how my big struggle has been wanting her to process through those feelings more quickly. Like I want to acknowledge her feelings, and then have her just get over them already. That’s about my need to control. I’m now working on my patience in letting her get everything out of her system (in a safe and respectful way) before attempting to reason or give alternatives.

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If you enjoyed this episode or our podcasts in the past, please consider joining our Atomic Moms Unite for Hurricane Harvey mission in order to support the youngest survivors of Hurricane Harvey. I did tons of research and this platform is super legit. Funds go directly to SAVE THE CHILDREN and you will automatically receive a charitable receipt for tax deduction. My heartfelt thanks for helping my hometown of Houston. ANY AMOUNT will help these families in need. $100 can provide a secure crib for a little one living in a shelter, help supply a safe space in shelters for 20 displaced children, or many other items that are needed to care for the littlest survivors. Give here

 

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About Our Podcast Guest:

Sarah Ockwell-Smith is the mother of four children and a highly regarded parenting expert whose work and expertise has been featured in major media including BBC News Magazine, WebMD, Buzzfeed, as well as national television and radio. She has a BSc in Psychology and has also undertaken training in Hypnotherapy and Psychotherapy. A member of the British Sleep Society, Sarah specializes in gentle parenting methods as well as the science and psychology of parenting. She is co-founder of the GentleParenting website and writes a popular parenting blog at sarahockwell-smith.com.

Additional Naptime Reading by Sarah Ockwell-Smith:
Podcast Pairing:
If you like our latest episode, also check out our archived episode with Susan Stiffelman: “Parenting Without Power Struggles”. In this podcast, we ask the big questions, like: How can we be the calm and loving leaders our children deserve? What % of interactions with our children are about getting them to do what we want? How can we strengthen our relationship with our sons and daughters at any age? How can we stop nagging and have our kids listen? And what the heck should we do if we are in a power struggle with an extended relative or in-law?
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  • Do you have a hard time not giving in when your child has a tantrum?
  • How about controlling your anger or unhealthy eating habits?
  • Do you struggle to set aside time for yourself?

Atomic Moms Podcast | Host Ellie Knaus | Parenting Podcast | iTunes.com/AtomicMomsNew York Times bestselling author and Hollywood’s A-List psychotherapist BARRY MICHELS helps host ELLIE KNAUS  address all of these mama issues. And check back in September for Part II of our conversation.

 

In this interview, we discuss:
  1. min 5:33 – What are “The Tools” and how “we can overcome a problem in real time” rather than just talk about it after the fact.
  2. min 7:52 – How to model impulse control for our kids and why it’s so hard to say no to ourselves
  3. min 16:20 – How to give ourselves permission to commit to our creative fulfillment and how to get more ideas and passion when you have very little time
  4. min 20:45 – What can a Mom say to her partner if she needs more time for herself
  5. min 23:20 – How to tap into an unlimited source of psychological energy (“creativity, good will, enthusiasm”)
  6. min 30:26: – In mindfulness, we’re always being told to feel our feelings. How do you get the guts to do that when you’re used to ‘muscling’ through life?
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THE GUEST HOUSE

This being human is a guest house.
Every morning a new arrival.

A joy, a depression, a meanness,
some momentary awareness comes
as an unexpected visitor.

Welcome and entertain them all!
Even if they are a crowd of sorrows,
who violently sweep your house
empty of its furniture,
still, treat each guest honorably.
He may be clearing you out
for some new delight.

The dark thought, the shame, the malice.
meet them at the door laughing and invite them in.

Be grateful for whatever comes.
because each has been sent
as a guide from beyond. 

– Rumi

this is what happens when a mom of a 3 week-old and 3 year-old attempts to take a selfie #blurryeyed #needZZZZs

About Our Podcast Guest:

Barry Michels has a B.A. from Harvard, a law degree from University of California, Berkeley, and an MSW from the University of Southern California.  He has been in private practice as a psychotherapist in Los Angeles since 1986.
Additional Naptime Reading:

An ‘open secret’ in Hollywood . . . [Stutz and Michels] have developed a program designed to access the creative power of the unconscious.

 The authors of Coming Alive (out this August) and The Tools report that a large part of their practice involves actually encouraging their patients to feel more entitled: developing what they call “healthy entitlement,” meaning the sense that you have the right to want things.
 If you like this episode, check out:
Next week, we’re talking “Gentle Discipline” with parenting expert Sarah Okwell-Smith.

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Meet the brand new love of our lives: Eliza Sztykiel (8 lbs, 8 oz, 21 inches long)! In this ‘mom’umental episode, Ellie Knaus (hi!) and Adam Sztykiel share the highlights of our second daughter’s beautiful, hilarious, and wild unmedicated hospital birth, including audio footage Adam secretly and lovingly taped (best push present for a podcasting mom ever!) Special thanks to our birthing dream team: our mama bear doula Carmen, sunny OBGYN Dr. Susan Morrison, and all the fabulous nurses at Cedar Sinai hospital. To all you Atomic Mamas, thank you all for keeping us company on this 40 week pregnancy journey.

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